Few things are more emotionally charged than disagreeing with your ex about what’s best for your child. Whether it’s screen time, schools, bedtimes or boundaries, it can feel like every disagreement is a battle to win. But child-centred co-parenting isn’t about who’s right — it’s about what’s best for your child.

Common Flashpoints We hear the same themes come up time and again: different parenting styles, bedtime routines, school choices, or screen time. These issues often feel like they tap into deeper fears or frustrations — especially if communication is strained. Naming these flashpoints helps normalise the stress and make space for change.

Reframe the Conflict The question isn’t, “How do I convince them I’m right?” Instead, ask: “What matters most to our child in this situation?” That shift alone changes the tone and reduces defensiveness. Use the lens of “if we still lived together, would this still be my stance?”

Scripts for Stuck Moments Try:

• “Let’s come back to this with clearer heads.”
• “This is important. Can we revisit it tomorrow with more focus on what [child’s name] needs?”
• “Can we agree to disagree on this one, and find a middle ground that protects their routine?”

The Calm Clarity Method Introduce the Taking Good Co-Parenting Decisions guide as a tool for reflection, regulation, and re-focusing on long-term outcomes. The guide offers emotional check-ins, practical reflection questions, and real-life examples to support clearer thinking.

Conclusion

You won’t agree on everything. But you can agree to keep your child at the centre.

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