You are a Detached Co-Parent
You’ve likely found that co-parenting is too challenging or frustrating to engage with regularly, leading you to disengage from communication or decision-making. You might avoid conflict by staying distant, but this can sometimes leave important issues unresolved, creating stress for both you and your child.
While it’s understandable to protect yourself from unnecessary drama, co-parenting requires a level of interaction that ensures your child feels supported by both parents. If communication with your co-parent feels impossible, finding alternative methods—like a structured parenting plan, using a mediator, or setting strict boundaries—can help you maintain a presence without unnecessary conflict.
Your child benefits from both parents playing an active role in their life. Finding ways to contribute meaningfully, even if it means adjusting how you engage, can make a huge difference. Support is available—whether through a co-parenting course, professional guidance, or legal agreements—to help you establish a system that works for your family while keeping your child’s well-being at the center.
Your Co-Parenting Style & How to Improve It
Co-parenting is one of the most challenging and important roles you’ll ever take on. Whether you and your co-parent work together well, struggle with communication, or keep things at a distance, there’s always room for improvement—and that’s exactly why you’re here.
Right now, co-parenting probably feels like a mix of some wins and some frustrations. You may have moments where things run smoothly, but there are also patterns that keep causing stress, whether it’s conflict, a lack of consistency, or feeling like you’re carrying more of the load. Maybe you’re wondering if there’s a way to make things less frustrating and more cooperative—and the answer is yes. A few small shifts can make a huge difference in how you and your co-parent navigate this journey.
What’s important to remember is that co-parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about finding ways to make things work better for you, your co-parent, and most importantly, your child. The good news? The fact that you took this quiz means you’re open to growth, and that’s a powerful first step.
No matter your current co-parenting dynamic, you can improve things by focusing on three key areas:
✅ Communication – How can you make interactions smoother, clearer, and less stressful?
✅ Boundaries & Balance – Are you setting healthy limits while ensuring both parents contribute?
✅ Consistency for Your Child – How can you create a stable, predictable environment despite differences?
Every co-parenting journey has ups and downs, but with the right guidance, tools, and mindset, things can get better. And when they do, the difference for your child—and for you—can be life-changing.
Here’s the key: Your Co-Parenting Journey is Yours.
That means your approach to co-parenting won’t look exactly like anyone else’s. You might have a structured, well-planned routine with your co-parent, or you might take a more flexible, week-by-week approach. Maybe you communicate often, or maybe you prefer to keep things minimal but effective.
In fact, the more you design a co-parenting arrangement that truly works for you and your child, the more unconventional it might seem to others. One parent I worked with built a great system where their child thrived in two homes with different routines. Another co-parenting duo barely spoke but had a rock-solid structure that gave their child total security.
That’s not my version of co-parenting—but I love that it’s theirs!
Your co-parenting journey is yours—not mine, not your friends’, and not your family’s. There’s no one-size-fits-all model. The goal isn’t to do what others expect—it’s to create a setup that works for your child and gives you peace of mind.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing by email my best insights on how you can build a co-parenting approach that actually fits your life, not just one that feels like a constant compromise
While you’re waiting there are a couple of resources I want to share with you:
First: My book
The Co-Parent Method: Six Steps to Raising Happy Kids after Separation and Divorce.
My best – selling book, published by Penguin, is a highly practical and fully tested way to dramatically improve your co-parenting. It will give you the tools and mindset to become a fantastic co-parent for your children.
Second: My Co-Parent Method Programme
Co-Parenting is a significant and hugely important chunk of your life. So, why not be fully intentional about it and be the best co-parent you can possibly be?
In my Co-Parent Method Programme I bring my book alive and, with a carefully chosen mix of live sessions and videos, show you how to be the co-parent you’ve always wanted to be.
